A Few Small Changes that Make a BIG Difference

One of the best ideas I have ever come across I discovered in Darren Hardy's The Compound Effect. There are lots of great ideas to be discovered there, but this one stood out to me.  I have added it to my own life and have had such great shifts that I want to share it with everyone. 

In his book Darren teaches of the wonderful empowering feeling to be gained by doing what he calls Book Ending Your Day.  Much can happen in your day that you are not in control over and you need to be able to flow and roll with it. That is not new news to any of us. But what Darren reminds us is that though you may not be able to control all of the events of your day, you can control your responses to them. And what better way to build a feeling of control than by practising it and exercising control over the parts that you can - the beginning and the end of each day.





For me, to flow and not lose my way, requires me to be able to do all that open heart and open mind flowing, while remaining well rooted in me. I have known that for years now, but I was lost in the idea that a huge chunk of time needed to be dedicated to that grounding every week or so. I wasn't making that grounding of myself a part of my regular daily routine in small ways as I do now. 

Darren talks about beginning your day in a routine that sets you up for feeling success. Since reading his wonderful book I have tweaked a morning routine that has become essential to me.  I was never much of a morning person so this was a toughy for me when I was staring. But now that my morning routine has become so important, I easily get out of bed 30mins earlier so I can be sure that I am not feeling rushed. My morning routine has become one the best parts of my day and I love that I can always count on it, and on me.

Here is what is working for me ~ Once awake and before my feet hit the ground, I say a little prayer of gratitude. "Thank you for a good night's sleep. Thank you for the wonderful pillow that supported my dreamy head. Thank you for my healthy feeling self who is ready to get moving (slowly, but still ready). Thank you for the opportunities that lay ahead in today."

I used to check my emails and other messages as I had my breakfast. Now, that waits. I make a tea or coffee and read something inspiring (usually just a short something, there is no shortage of inspiration in the wonderful blogs I have bookmarked). After a good stretch, 5mins of meditation and a shower, I am ready to begin the day feeling rooted and certain of myself. 

That rooted feeling helps me to stay on task while also being able to flow within the day's events.  After dinner and before I end the day I am sure to bring myself back full circle, to that grounded feeling place.  The evenings end with a reflection of my day and a plan for tomorrow's activities. I have traded in crap TV for an hour of me time. Usually I read or watch something that both entertains and inspires. Being a continual student of The Universe and the teachings and ideas of others is what helps me to feel like I am continually moving in a forward direction.  My evening "ready for bed" routine includes more gratitude. Some times I write my thoughts down in a journal, I love having a tangible collection of what I feel is my good stuff, and sometimes it is verbal.  Whether written or recited its important to me to go to sleep feeling the best that I can. It is my conscious way of continuing the cycle I spent time creating for myself this morning and setting myself up for a good start to tomorrow. 

It's called book ending your day. The idea is to replace some of the overwhelm in many of our lives with a balanced feeling of mastery. And the thought is that that can be created by exercising your power of control in what you are doing at either end of your day. Create a routine of daily success habits that work for you, whatever they maybe, and feel the chaos of the day dim. 

Sharing ideas is what helps us all grow into better versions of ourselves. Do you have a routine already? Are there success habits that are helping you to grow and move yourself forward towards your best life? I'd love for you to share your routines or ideas here in the comments section of on my Facebook page. 

I am Planning a Party and You're Invited

Want to know what kind of future lays ahead for you? Come, and peak into my Crystal Ball. Just kidding. No Crystal ball here but let me ask you, what's on your mind these days?

Such an important question because what we think about creates a feeling tied to that topic, and that feeling lets us know if what we are thinking is any good for us. It's an indicator of what kind of party we are planning for our future selves. Are we worrying and planning a pity party, or are we feeling good about what is going well so far, and planning a celebration of that getting a whole lot better? 

Whatever you're thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you're worrying, you are planning.  When you're appreciating, you are planning.  What are you planning?   ~Abraham

Don't set your fazers to panic just yet. You have time. Luckily for us the Universe, in all of its infinite brilliance, included a buffer of time. So you don't have to worry. You have time. And WAIT! I know it may be hard to believe, but it gets even better. You only have to just tip the scales to get to the good. You only have to have 51% better feeling thoughts on any topic to tip your scales and to grow more of what is awesome. You can do it!!  If I can do it.....YOU CAN DO IT!

It didn't happen over night. I have always been a bit serious. A planner and organizer, a thinker. But I am trying a new approach on for size these days. 

If I can control it ~ there is no reason to worry about it because I can control it.If I can't control it ~ there is no reason to worry about it because I can't control it.

I must say, its taking some effort, but I am learning. I am enjoying being in the driver's seat of my life and the quiet feeling of balance that is bringing with it a friend call "full nights sleep".  As far as side effects go, I am feeling pretty darn good about this package deal.

So what's on your mind these days? What kind of party are you planning? 

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