Tuesday, 27 August 2013

42 (little) Things Worth Giving Up Now

There is much to be said for being in the process of ____, or reminding yourself that "slow and steady is what will win the race". Though I am a H-U-G-E believer in being easy on yourself when making changes and of setting yourself up for success by moving forward at a pace that is manageable, there are some things that you could let go of right now that would do you a world of good and really get your ball moving in the right direction. 

  1. Doubting Yourself - You are just as worthy and just as capable as anyone else who is breathing the same air. You just have to know that and it will catapult you into your awesome space. 
  2. Negative Self-Talk - Why are you being mean to yourself?? If you wouldn't tell that to a child or a friend then why do you say it to yourself?? 
  3. Anger - Anger can be healthy in the short term but it is not meant to be held on to. Use it to move you forward and to take back you personal power but then know that it has served its only purpose and release it. 
  4. Gossip - Gossip will not be the foundation of a strong and trusting relationship. Do treat others with the same respect that you would like to be treated. You set that bar and gossip sets it pretty low.
  5. Fear of Failure - Try. If you don't try you will never know. You may surprise yourself. You will definitely learn something and contribute to your own expansion.
  6. Fear of Success - There is nothing evil about having it all or about wanting it all. We were designed to have desires. Choose what you desire and know that you deserve goodness because you were born to. And that is enough. 
  7. Shame - You are doing the best that you know how to do. There is no shame in that. Perhaps you will do it differently next time now that you know more. 
  8. Procrastination - If it can be done today it would likely feel best to do it today. Do your best to feel your best.  Holding yourself back from accomplishing what will feel good is a form of self abuse. 
  9. People Pleasing - Be true to yourself. If others are happy along the way that is a great bonus. You came to this earth to experience living and to grow in a manner that expands you. Trying to be what someone else wants you to be/ expects you to be will not in the end feel authentically you and will not lead to the sense of satisfaction that we all seek. 
10. Anything done in Excess - Moderation is the key. Excessive eating, drinking, exercise does not support the balance that you were created to enjoy. 
11. The phrase "I can't ____." - Because you can. You may choose not to, but saying I can't really is saying that you are not willing to do what it takes to be able to. And that is your choice. But it is a choice and so hang on to your power and name it the choice that it is. 
12. Hate - It's just not a healthy feeling way to live. I really don't think I need to explain that one. 
13. Your Need to Impress Anyone Other Than You - Do it for you. If other's get excited along the way, bonus. Expand your horizon because it is what feels right for you. After all, it is YOU who will be hanging out there on that horizon.  
14. Criticism - What we criticize in another really is a mirror image of what it is in ourselves that we are unhappy about. Learn to love that person as they are. That goes for you too. 
15. Taking Care of the Needs of Others Before Your Own - Your needs are just as important as anyone else's and you can't give away what you don't already have. Take time to fill your cup before you share with others.  (notice I didn't say instead of sharing, I said BEFORE sharing)
16. A Quick Fix - The "Easy Street Mentality" is not serving you. There is no way to get rich over night. There is no magic pill that is going to take off the weight. If you want it. Ask yourself WHY you want it. How do you expect to feel when you have it. Then believe you can have it and start feeling it now in any small way that you can. Watch that be what grows in your life. 
17. Worry - If you can change it then you don't need to worry about it because you can change it. If you can't change it, then there is no sense in worrying about it because you can't change it.  Don't waste your energy there. 
18. Living In The Past - What is done is done. If it was something that was good, that is great.  If it was something that was not good, it still falls under the category of "WAS".  Focus on what is and what can be. 
19. Blame - Blaming another for anything gives away your personal power.  Instead, accept your role, take responsibility and move on. 
20. Laziness - Get up and get moving. Action is required. 
21. Complaining - What you focus upon is what will grow in your life. Complaining is focus on something that you don't like, so why feed it. Instead focus on anything that you DO like. Feed that and let IT be what grows.
22. Control - You simply cannot control it all. Trying to control everything will only lead to higher stress levels. 
23. Excuses - They are not serving you. Recognize them. Take responsibility for your role and choose to move forward. 
24. Comparing Yourself to Others - You have a different story, a different path and a unique set of gifts. There is no comparison. Embrace your individuality. 
25. Keeping Constantly Busy - Learn to sit silently and listen. Really listen. It is in this place that you will connect with that deeper place inside of you and where you will hear the whispers of your heart. 
26. Perfectionism - There is nothing noteworthy about having it all be perfect. Perfect is a personal perception. 
27. Attachment to the Details - There are SO many options and paths. Follow your gut and be open to possibility
28. The Need to Always Be Right - You might learn something new.
29.  Foods That Slow You Down - "You are what you eat"
30.  Trying to do Everything On Your Own - Being able to do it on your own doesn't mean that you have to. 
31. Grudges - Who is suffering from your grudge really???  You.
32. Waiting for the Perfect Time - Nobody ever feels 100% ready when a opportunity to grow beyond what is your current comfort zone presents itself. That will always be true for us all, but there is no time like the present to get yourself started down that new path. 
33. Trying to Avoid Mistakes - Mistakes are going to happen, but they are not mistakes if they move you forward and help you to learn, grow and expand yourself.
34. Looking Outside of Yourself for the Good Stuff - All of your Good Stuff is inside. Look there and I promise that you will find it. 
35. Keeping Your Thoughts and Emotions Inside - The people in your life are not mind readers. Use your words and communicate with them. 
36. Avoiding/ Fear of Change - Nothing is permanent. That can be a helpful way to see things when you are not happy with a situation. It too shall change. 
37. Relationships with People who Bring You Down - There are so many people in the world with whom you can connect. Treat yourself and others well and choose to be treated well. You deserve that.
38. Habits that you Know are Not Good for you - Butt out that cigarette. Don't answer that text while you are driving etc. 
39. Making Mountains out of Mole Hills -   When something feels big to me I always ask myself "Is this a defining moment in my history?" Usually, the answer is no and I can release the stress and move on more easily.
40. Taking it all too Seriously - You came to this life to enjoy the process.  You aren't ever going to get it all done. There will always be something that you want to have, do, become, experience.... It's a journey that is meant to be enjoyed.  Laugh a little. It's good for you.
41. Thinking About the Things that you Don't Have - Count your blessings instead of your woes. It's OK to want to have whatever it is. That is natural for us humans but you do have a lot of things to be grateful for and they are what you deserve to have multiply.
42. Looking for Change in the Same Place Again and Again -  If you want to feel differently then you have to live it differently. 

What do you think?? Is there anything on that list that stands out for you?? What did I miss that you would add to the list??

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